How To Stop Worrying?

This is the technique of relaxing worry (with eyes remaining closed), taking as an example the possibility of losing your position as the needless anxiety or fear. However, you may substitute in its place any worry or particular fear which may be troubling you.

  • Lie on your back comfortably and make sure that your entire body including the eyes and speech apparatus are completely relaxed.
     

  • After about fifteen minutes of such relaxation, start "worrying" that you may lose your job.
     

  • Observe very closely what is now taking place---the instant you begin to worry, you have a mental picture, along with a slight tension in the eye muscles. You are visualizing the various unpleasant details and the consequences of losing your position.
     

  • Note that you are seeing various mental pictures related to the troubling situation. The phenomenon in the eyes can be likened to a motion picture projected on a screen.

Of course you now realize that you are looking directly at your worry. At the same instant, carefully observe the very slight tension in your speech apparatus, In addition to seeing your worry, you are actually talking or representing, over and over again to yourself, or to others, the nature of the trouble, without producing a sound! This inner speech is rapid, slurred, and the words are telescoped.


Some persons may not experience marked visual imagery When they worry; others, on the other hand, may experience both visualization and inner speech during the worry process.  This observation should make it clear to you that "worrying" includes brain plus muscle action in an inseparable combination.
 

  • Now completely relax the eyes and the speech apparatus.  Again carefully note that when you do so, the mental pictures disappear and inner speech ceases. For the present you have stopped worrying!
    Lets emphasize that at this point that you have stopped worrying because you have relaxed, to an extreme degree, your eyes and speech apparatus, which are the key regions controlling thought (and worry) processes.
     

  • Maintain complete relaxation for ten minutes.  Until you become sufficiently skillful in relaxing your worries, you will undoubtedly have some recurrence of undesirable mental pictures and inner speech involved in the process of worry. Observe when this occurs that you are tensing the eye and speech (key) regions. Relax these parts when-ever the worry makes its appearance.
     

  • Again, in imagination, choose to worry about something, and make your observation as above. Let go all the muscles involved in the worry (thinking) process, and relax completely for the remainder of the practice period.


Relaxation Tips

  1. Make sure when relaxing worry to completely let go the forehead, brow and eyelids, together with the eye and speech regions.
     

  2. You are tensing muscles whenever you worry.
     

  3. In the early stages of practice, relief from worry may not be constant. However, beneficial results in the form of nearly complete relief will be acquired through diligent practice and application of the technique as outlined in this work.
     

  4. The desired goal in relaxing worry is attained when relaxation becomes "second nature," so that the worry process can be "shut off" much like an electric switch, at any time.

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